Are you in the Salt Lake City group?

“Are We Dating The Same Guy” is a network of private Facebook groups, each one tied to a city or region. Women join the group for where they live, post a photo or a screenshot of a man they’ve met or matched with, and ask whether anyone else knows him. Here is how that works in Salt Lake City.

One corridor from Ogden to Provo

Much of Utah lives along the Wasatch Front, a long strip between the mountains and the Great Salt Lake that runs from Ogden in the north, through Salt Lake City, down to Orem and Provo. People live, work and date up and down that line. A commute that starts in Davis County can end downtown, and a date can mean a drive from one end of the valley to the other.

The groups here reflect that. They cover Salt Lake City together with Ogden, Orem and Provo, so a post written in one part of the corridor can be read by women all along it. A man who lives in one city and dates in another may not think of himself as part of the same scene, but the groups treat it as one.

The University of Utah, Sugar House and downtown

The University of Utah sits on the east bench above downtown and brings a large student population into the city. Sugar House, to the south, has restaurants, bars and a large park that make it a common choice for a first date. Downtown has its own nightlife, and light rail and commuter rail make it reachable from much of the valley.

Weber State in Ogden and the universities in Orem and Provo add more students at each end of the corridor. Many of them stay after graduating and keep dating in the same area, and the people they meet are often only a short drive apart.

Ski season and the people it brings

Winter changes the city. Ski-season visitors and seasonal workers arrive for the resorts in the canyons and the mountains just east of town, and the apps fill up with people who are only around for a few months. A man who came for a season, dated locally and then left can still appear in a group long afterward.

Seasonal work also means unusual hours. Resort staff, restaurant workers and lift crews often date around their shifts, which tends to push more of it onto the apps and away from shared friends.

How we search the Wasatch Front

We begin with the main groups covering Salt Lake City, then follow the corridor to the places a post about you might also surface: Ogden and Davis County, Provo and Orem, and the Utah-wide groups. Your photos lead the search, with your name and any handles alongside them. If you worked a season here and live somewhere else now, or the other way around, mention both places when you order.

Clearing up the uncertainty

It is hard to set a question aside when you can’t see the answer. A written report shows you what is there, or tells you plainly that nothing turned up, and either way you can move on.