Are you in the Las Vegas group?

“Are We Dating The Same Guy” is a network of private Facebook groups, each one tied to a city or region. Women join the group for where they live, post a photo or a screenshot of a man they’ve met or matched with, and ask whether anyone else knows him. Here is how that works in Las Vegas.

Locals, visitors and the apps

Open a dating app in Las Vegas and many of the profiles belong to people who will be gone by Monday. Locals learn to tell the difference quickly. The Las Vegas group, with about 57,000 members, is largely made up of women who live and date here year-round, and posts in it can be about local men or about men who were only in town for a weekend. Members tend to look carefully at photos to work out which is which.

For a man who lives in the valley, the group is part of the local scene in a way that’s easy to underestimate. The women reading it are often the same women he is likely to match with again.

Swing shifts and casino hours

Much of Las Vegas works in casinos, resorts, restaurants and entertainment, and those jobs run around the clock. Swing and graveyard shifts mean a date might start after midnight or on a Tuesday afternoon. People on those schedules lean on apps because ordinary social plans don’t line up with their hours. The hospitality world on and off the Strip is also closely connected, so word can travel between coworkers and across properties fairly quickly.

Henderson, Summerlin and the rest of the valley

Las Vegas is much wider than the Strip. Henderson to the southeast and Summerlin on the west side are home to many of the people who work in the city, and a lot of everyday dating happens in these suburbs and in neighborhoods away from the tourist corridor. A first date between Henderson and Summerlin is a drive across the whole valley, which tends to mean the two people don’t share many friends.

Weekend visitors from Southern California

Plenty of Southern California residents drive up I-15 for the weekend, and some come often enough to date here regularly. If that’s you, you may have been posted in a Las Vegas group without ever having lived in Nevada.

We start with the main group and then the surrounding groups where posts from the same area end up: the smaller groups covering Las Vegas and Henderson, another Las Vegas group of about 9,000 members, and the groups covering Nevada as a whole. If you live in Los Angeles or San Diego, or have dated anywhere else, list it in the order notes and we’ll check there as well.

Knowing, not wondering

Men in Las Vegas often decide to check after something small: a match who seemed to know more than his profile said, a coworker’s offhand comment, a date that ended oddly. A written result gives you a fact to work with instead of a question that follows you into the next shift.