Are you in the Denver group?

“Are We Dating The Same Guy” is a network of private Facebook groups, each one tied to a city or region. Women join the group for where they live, post a photo or a screenshot of a man they’ve met or matched with, and ask whether anyone else knows him. Here is how that works in Denver.

Several groups and no single front door

Search Facebook for a Denver Are We Dating The Same Guy group and no single main one comes up. Posts about men here are spread across several Denver and Colorado groups, and none of them stands out in Facebook search. For a man trying to check on his own, that is the hardest part. He may search, find one group, scroll through it and still miss the one where a post actually sits.

That is not unusual for a metro that has grown quickly. New groups start as people move in, older ones keep going, and women join whichever ones their friends point them to. A screenshot can also be shared from one group into another, so a man can be discussed in a group he has never heard of, by women he has never met.

Transplants and the weekend drive west

A lot of Denver’s population came from somewhere else, often for work or for the outdoors. People arrive single, use the apps to meet people, and date widely while they are still building a social circle. Weekends often head into the mountains for hiking or skiing, so a date might start at a trailhead as easily as at a bar.

That mix of newcomers and long weekends away means people often meet without any shared friends. When a woman wants to check on a man she has met that way, a group is usually the quickest place to ask.

LoDo, RiNo, the Highlands and Cherry Creek

Nights out tend to happen in a handful of neighborhoods. LoDo, around Union Station and the ballpark, is busy on weekends. RiNo has breweries and restaurants that draw people from across the metro. The Highlands, across the river from downtown, have their own bars and restaurants, and Cherry Creek is quieter and a little more polished.

The suburbs widen the picture. Aurora to the east, Lakewood to the west and Boulder to the northwest all have dating scenes of their own, and Boulder adds university students and the people who stay on afterward. Colorado Springs is a drive south, and plenty of people date between the two cities.

How we cover a scattered scene

Because no single group stands out in search, we search the groups covering Denver itself first, then the ones that match where Denver dating actually reaches: Boulder and the northern suburbs, Colorado Springs, and the Colorado-wide groups. The photos you send are what makes this work across so many groups. If you lived somewhere else before Denver, which is common, tell us on the form and we’ll search there too.

Seeing the whole picture at once

With posts split across several groups, checking for yourself rarely feels finished. A report that looks through them together tells you where you stand, and lets you stop searching. If nothing turns up across all of them, that is a result you can actually rely on.