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How the Austin group works, and what we search there.
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Are you in the San Antonio group?
The San Antonio “Are We Dating The Same Guy” group is private and women-only, so you can’t look for yourself. We search it for you, along with the groups around it, and email you a written report within 24 hours.
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The San Antonio group
(01)“Are We Dating The Same Guy” is a network of private Facebook groups, each one tied to a city or region. Women join the group for where they live, post a photo or a screenshot of a man they’ve met or matched with, and ask whether anyone else knows him. Here is how that works in San Antonio.
A military city with people always arriving
San Antonio has a large military presence. Joint Base San Antonio has sites on different sides of the city, and with it comes a steady flow of service members arriving for training or a new posting, meeting people, and then leaving on orders. Military dating tends to move quickly. Someone matches on an app soon after arriving, dates for a few months, and transfers before anything has settled.
A post written during that time doesn’t transfer with him. It stays in the group where it was written, sometimes long after he’s gone. If you’ve been stationed here, or near another base before this one, it’s worth thinking about every place you dated rather than just the one you live in now.
Smaller groups instead of one big one
Search Facebook for a San Antonio group and no single main one comes up. Smaller groups cover San Antonio, Boerne and New Braunfels separately, and a cross-city Texas group overlaps with all of them. A post might go up in one and never reach the others, or be shared from one to the next by a woman who belongs to more than one. Looking through a single group only gives part of the picture.
That fragmentation is also why it’s hard for a man to check on his own. He would need to know which groups exist, be let into each of them, and then search them without anyone noticing.
The Pearl, downtown and the north side
A lot of San Antonio dating happens around the Pearl and downtown along the River Walk, while home is often farther out, in Stone Oak, along Loop 1604, or in the newer neighborhoods spreading north toward the Hill Country. The city is wide and most people drive, so a match can live a fair distance away and still feel local. UTSA’s main campus on the far northwest side and Trinity University closer in add students to the mix, and many of them stay in the city after they graduate.
New Braunfels and the road to Austin
New Braunfels, San Marcos and the towns along I-35 sit between San Antonio and Austin, and people there date in both directions. A woman in New Braunfels might be in a San Antonio group, an Austin one, or the group for her own town. Boerne, northwest on I-10, has a similar pull of its own.
What a San Antonio search covers
We begin with the groups covering San Antonio, then the Boerne and New Braunfels groups and the wider Texas one, and continue up the corridor toward Austin if your dating history points that way. There’s a space on the form for earlier bases, hometowns or other cities you’ve dated in, and we’ll add their groups to the search.
Whatever comes back, it’s written down and specific, and you can stop turning the question over in your head.
Why you can’t check it yourself
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It’s women-only
Admins screen people before they’re let in, and men are turned away. There is no visitor view and no way to browse from outside.
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Nothing is public
Posts don’t show up on Google or in Facebook search outside the group. If you’re in a post, it exists only for the people inside.
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Asking around tells people
Getting a friend to look means telling her why. Most men would rather not, and one person scrolling a busy group can easily miss a post.
What we search for San Antonio
(03)- The main San Antonio groupThen the groups around it, because posts are often shared on from one group to the next.
- Groups covering Boerne and the Hill Country
- Groups covering New Braunfels and the I-35 corridor
- Texas-wide groups
- The Are We Dating The Same Guy appThe network now has its own app. We search that too.
How we search
By your first name and age, by the photos you upload, and by any dating app handles or nicknames you give us. Photos matter most: many posts are just a screenshot of a profile with no name attached.
What you get back
A written report by email. If something is there, you get a direct link to the post, screenshots, the date it went up, and how much attention it has had. If nothing is there, we say so plainly and list everywhere we looked.
The Tea app in San Antonio
(04)Tea is the other place men get posted, and it works differently from the groups. It’s one app for the whole country rather than a group per city, but every post is filed under a location. A post about you will usually sit under San Antonio, or under wherever she was when she wrote it.
Like the groups, Tea is women-only and identity-verified, so you can’t see it yourself. A Group Check doesn’t include Tea. If you want both searched, the Full Check covers Tea, the groups and your photos in one report.
Group Check · San Antonio
Know for certain.
A researcher searches the groups by hand and sends you a plain yes or no, with the evidence if there is any. We never post, comment or contact anyone, and nobody can see that you searched.
San Antonio questions
(05)I’m stationed at Joint Base San Antonio but I’m from somewhere else. What should I search?
Start with San Antonio, since that’s where you’re dating now. If you dated near a previous base or back home, give us those places and we’ll search the groups covering them as well.
I live in Boerne. Would a post be in the San Antonio group or a local one?
It could be either, which is why we check both. Smaller towns near the city often have their own group, and women there tend to join the San Antonio groups too.
I date in both San Antonio and Austin. Can one check cover both?
Yes. For someone who dates along I-35, the Austin groups are a natural part of the search. Note that on the form and we’ll search them alongside the San Antonio groups.
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See the Oklahoma City page →Not sure which group you’d be in? The Group Check covers wherever you live and date, listed here or not.
