San Antonio
How the San Antonio group works, and what we search there.
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Are you in the Austin group?
The Austin “Are We Dating The Same Guy” group is private and women-only, so you can’t look for yourself. We search it for you, along with the groups around it, and email you a written report within 24 hours.
Texas Result in 24 hours
The Austin group
(01)“Are We Dating The Same Guy” is a network of private Facebook groups, each one tied to a city or region. Women join the group for where they live, post a photo or a screenshot of a man they’ve met or matched with, and ask whether anyone else knows him. Here is how that works in Austin.
The group you can’t find in search
If you’ve tried looking for an Austin group yourself, you may have come up with nothing. The main group for the city doesn’t appear in Facebook search, so a man who wants to look can’t even find the front door. What does show up is a cross-city group covering Houston, Austin and San Antonio together, which says a lot about how far a post from here can travel.
Groups like these are often kept out of search so that only women who are invited or approved can join. For a man, that means looking for himself isn’t really an option. Someone has to search on his behalf.
Campus, tech offices and people still unpacking
Austin has a large student population around the University of Texas and a large tech workforce spread between downtown, the Domain in north Austin and office parks on the edges of the city. A lot of people here arrived recently, for a job or a fresh start, and they tend to meet dates through apps rather than through school friends or family. When a woman wants to know more about a man she matched with, she often has nobody in common with him to ask, so she asks a group.
People also leave. Graduates move on, contracts end, and a man who dated here for a couple of years may now live in another state. A post from that time stays where it was written.
From South Congress out to Kyle and Round Rock
Austin dating covers a lot of ground. A night out might be on South Congress, Rainey Street or the east side, while home is in Round Rock, Cedar Park or Pflugerville to the north, or down I-35 in Kyle or Buda. Dating apps blend all of that into one pool, so a woman in Cedar Park and a woman in East Austin can easily be looking at the same profiles, and a post in one group can be shared into another by a member who belongs to both.
South by Southwest in the spring and Austin City Limits in the fall add a wave of visitors, and plenty of them use the apps while they’re in town. A match from one of those weeks might belong to a group in a completely different city once she’s home.
How an Austin check is run
We start with the groups covering Austin itself, including the Houston, Austin and San Antonio group, and then move outward to the nearby groups that share members with them, such as the suburban and statewide ones. If you lived somewhere else before Austin, or met someone during a festival week, mention those places as you check out and their groups become part of the search.
You’ll get a written report within 24 hours. Whatever it says, you’ll be working from what’s actually there rather than from a hunch you can’t check.
Why you can’t check it yourself
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It’s women-only
Admins screen people before they’re let in, and men are turned away. There is no visitor view and no way to browse from outside.
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Nothing is public
Posts don’t show up on Google or in Facebook search outside the group. If you’re in a post, it exists only for the people inside.
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Asking around tells people
Getting a friend to look means telling her why. Most men would rather not, and one person scrolling a busy group can easily miss a post.
What we search for Austin
(03)- The main Austin groupThen the groups around it, because posts are often shared on from one group to the next.
- Groups covering Houston, Austin and San Antonio
- Groups covering the Austin suburbs
- Texas-wide groups
- The Are We Dating The Same Guy appThe network now has its own app. We search that too.
How we search
By your first name and age, by the photos you upload, and by any dating app handles or nicknames you give us. Photos matter most: many posts are just a screenshot of a profile with no name attached.
What you get back
A written report by email. If something is there, you get a direct link to the post, screenshots, the date it went up, and how much attention it has had. If nothing is there, we say so plainly and list everywhere we looked.
The Tea app in Austin
(04)Tea is the other place men get posted, and it works differently from the groups. It’s one app for the whole country rather than a group per city, but every post is filed under a location. A post about you will usually sit under Austin, or under wherever she was when she wrote it.
Like the groups, Tea is women-only and identity-verified, so you can’t see it yourself. A Group Check doesn’t include Tea. If you want both searched, the Full Check covers Tea, the groups and your photos in one report.
Group Check · Austin
Know for certain.
A researcher searches the groups by hand and sends you a plain yes or no, with the evidence if there is any. We never post, comment or contact anyone, and nobody can see that you searched.
Austin questions
(05)I can’t find an Austin group on Facebook. Does that mean there isn’t one?
No. The main Austin group doesn’t appear in Facebook search, so most men simply can’t see it. The cross-city group for Houston, Austin and San Antonio is visible, and we include it in every Austin check.
I moved to Austin recently. Should I include the city I lived in before?
Yes, if you dated there. A post stays in the group where it was written, even after you’ve moved. Give us your previous city on the form and its groups go into the search too.
I live in Round Rock. Is an Austin search still the right one?
Usually, yes. Women in the northern suburbs often date across the whole metro and join the Austin-area groups. We start there and include the suburban groups as part of the same check.
Nearby cities
All cities →Houston
How the Houston group works, and what we search there.
See the Houston page →Fort Worth
How the Fort Worth group works, and what we search there.
See the Fort Worth page →Dallas
How the Dallas group works, and what we search there.
See the Dallas page →Oklahoma City
How the Oklahoma City group works, and what we search there.
See the Oklahoma City page →Not sure which group you’d be in? The Group Check covers wherever you live and date, listed here or not.
