Are you in the New Orleans group?

“Are We Dating The Same Guy” is a network of private Facebook groups, each one tied to a city or region. Women join the group for where they live, post a photo or a screenshot of a man they’ve met or matched with, and ask whether anyone else knows him. Here is how that works in New Orleans.

Uptown, Mid-City and downriver to the Bywater

New Orleans is a city of distinct neighborhoods, and people tend to identify with theirs. Uptown runs along St. Charles Avenue and the streetcar line. Mid-City sits inland around Canal Street and City Park. Downriver from the French Quarter, the Marigny and the Bywater have their own bars, music and regulars. A lot of dating happens inside those neighborhoods, but the apps pull people across them all the time, and a match Uptown can easily turn into a date in the Marigny. The Garden District, the Irish Channel and the Lower Garden District fill in between Uptown and downtown, while Gentilly and Lakeview have quieter crowds of their own.

Late shifts in a hospitality city

Many people in New Orleans work in restaurants, bars, hotels and music, and those jobs run late. People finish work when everyone else is going to bed, and they often date other people who keep the same hours. Apps fill the gap. Someone getting off a shift at midnight can still match, message and meet, and the groups become one of the ways a woman checks on a man she hasn’t met through friends.

Festival seasons and convention weeks

Mardi Gras, Jazz Fest and the steady run of conventions bring a lot of visitors, and many of them use the apps while they’re in town. A match from one of those weeks might involve someone who flew home a few days later. In that case, a post could be in a group for her home city rather than a New Orleans one, which is worth keeping in mind before you assume the worst or assume nothing.

Tulane, Loyola and the students who stay

Tulane and Loyola sit side by side on St. Charles Avenue, and their students bring a fresh dating crowd to Uptown every year. Xavier, Dillard and the University of New Orleans add their own students in other parts of the city. Some move away after graduating. Others stay for work in the city’s hospitals, schools and kitchens, and stay part of the same dating pool for years.

Metairie, the Northshore and how we search

Many people live outside the city proper. Metairie and the rest of Jefferson Parish are next door, and the Northshore, across Lake Pontchartrain by way of the Causeway, takes in Mandeville, Covington and Slidell. Women in those places often date in the city and join its groups.

For a New Orleans check, we search the groups covering the city first, then the Jefferson Parish, Northshore and Louisiana groups that overlap with them. If you dated someone visiting from elsewhere, or lived in another city before this one, include it with your order and we’ll cover that as well.

Your report comes within 24 hours, so a question that’s been sitting with you can be settled on facts.