Are you in the Atlanta group?

“Are We Dating The Same Guy” is a network of private Facebook groups, each one tied to a city or region. Women join the group for where they live, post a photo or a screenshot of a man they’ve met or matched with, and ask whether anyone else knows him. Here is how that works in Atlanta.

One group name, a whole state

The main group here is called “Are We Dating The Same Guy? | Atlanta / Athens / Marietta / Georgia,” and the name is a fair description of who joins it. With about 90,000 members, it pulls in women from Midtown apartments, Marietta subdivisions, a college town well east of the city and towns across the rest of Georgia.

For a man in Atlanta, that means the women reading a post about him aren’t only the ones he might meet on a Friday night in Buckhead. They include women who matched with him once while visiting the city, and women who moved away some time ago but never left the group.

ITP, OTP and the Perimeter

Atlantans sort themselves by the Perimeter, the interstate loop that circles the city. Inside it are Midtown, Buckhead, Decatur, the Old Fourth Ward and the neighborhoods close to downtown. Outside it are Marietta and the rest of Cobb County, northern suburbs such as Alpharetta and Roswell, and the long spread of Gwinnett. Plenty of people date across that line, which is part of why the group covers so much ground.

A date between someone in Decatur and someone in Marietta often means a long stretch of traffic and a meeting point somewhere in between. When two people come from different parts of the metro, they tend to share few mutual friends, so a woman with doubts is more likely to ask the group than ask around.

Athens and the university years

Athens is part of the group’s name for a reason. The University of Georgia brings in a steady stream of students and young graduates, and many of them move to Atlanta for work afterward. Moving doesn’t mean leaving a group behind, and a woman who knew a man in Athens may well be scrolling the same group from an apartment in Midtown later on. A man who dated there during or after college can still be recognized by women who now live in the city.

How we search for an Atlanta post

We start with the main group and then work through the surrounding groups where a post about you is likely to turn up: those covering Athens, Marietta and the northern suburbs, and those covering Georgia as a whole. If you’ve lived or dated somewhere else, whether that’s Savannah, Birmingham or Charlotte, note it on the order form and we’ll cover it too.

A straight answer, ITP or OTP

Some men start wondering after a friend says “I think I saw you in that group.” Others have no tip-off at all and simply want to know before a relationship becomes serious. A clear written result, whatever it says, is easier to live with than a question you keep turning over on the drive home.