Are you in the Chicago group?

“Are We Dating The Same Guy” is a network of private Facebook groups, each one tied to a city or region. Women join the group for where they live, post a photo or a screenshot of a man they’ve met or matched with, and ask whether anyone else knows him. Here is how that works in Chicago.

A city group with a long reach

Chicago’s group draws in women from across the city and well beyond it. Someone in Lincoln Park and someone in Naperville can both be members, and to a dating app they’re often looking at the same men. If your radius covers the North Side, the western suburbs and the edge of Northwest Indiana, so does the pool of women who might post about you.

That spread matters. A post is written by one person, but the women commenting under it might live forty miles apart, and a screenshot can move from the main group into a suburban or statewide one within a day.

How Chicago dating feeds the group

A lot of Chicago dating happens between neighborhoods rather than inside them. People match across the river, meet halfway in the Loop or the West Loop, and ride home on different L lines. So the woman who posts about a date often has no mutual friends with the man, and she asks the group instead. It’s also why posts here lean on photos. She may only know a first name and whatever was on the profile.

The Chicago group has been in the news more than once, and attention like that tends to bring a wave of new members. More members means more eyes on every post, including older ones that get pushed back to the top when someone new comments.

Where a Chicago post can end up

For a man who lives or dates in Chicago, we start with the main group and then follow where posts realistically travel: the groups covering the suburbs, Northwest Indiana and Illinois as a whole. If you’ve dated in Milwaukee or spend your weekends somewhere else, tell us when you order and we’ll include it.

When it’s worth checking

Men usually start wondering after a tip-off. A friend mentions seeing a photo, a match goes quiet after asking odd questions, or a date says she “looked you up.” Others want to know before something matters, like a new relationship getting serious. Either way, knowing beats guessing, and a clean result is a real answer too.