HOW IT WORKS
Questions men ask before they order.
Most people arriving here have the same handful of questions, usually in the same order. They’re answered below in plain terms. If something isn’t covered, the answer is probably that we don’t do it — this is a deliberately narrow service and the limits are set out further down the page.
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What exactly do you do?
We find out whether you’ve been posted about online, and we tell you what’s there. That means searching the Tea app, the “Are We Dating The Same Guy” Facebook groups and app, and the open web for your photos. A researcher does the searching by hand. You get a written report by email, whether we find something or not.
That’s the whole service. We don’t remove anything, we don’t tell you who posted, and we don’t search for anyone except you.
Who is this for?
Men who suspect they’ve been written about and have no way of checking. Both platforms are women-only and closed. If you’ve been posted, you almost certainly won’t find out from the platform itself — most men hear about it second-hand, weeks later, from someone who saw it.
Is this legal?
Yes. We search live, active platforms through legitimate access, looking for one specific person who has asked us to look for him. Nothing about that is unusual. We don’t access private accounts, we don’t use leaked or hacked data, and we don’t search for third parties. Our full position is on the How We Source Data page.
Do I need to create an account?
No. You fill in the form, upload your photos, and pay. The report comes to your email. There’s no login, no dashboard, and nothing for you to maintain afterwards.
Can I speak to someone before I order?
No — and that’s deliberate rather than an oversight. There’s no phone number and no chat window on this site. Most men arrive here at eleven at night and want an answer without having a conversation about it first. Everything you’d ask on a call is on this page or on How It Works.
If we find something, a consultation is available afterwards. That’s the only point at which talking to us is part of the service.
What is the Tea app?
Tea is an app where women post about men they’ve dated, matched with, or been approached by. Posts can include your photos, your first name, your age, and an account of someone’s experience with you — accurate or not. Other users comment and add what they know.
Can I check the Tea app myself?
No. The app is women-only and identity-verified. Men can’t create accounts, and there’s no public-facing version of the content. That’s the reason this service exists.
How do you search it if I can't?
A researcher searches the platform directly, using the photos and details you provide. We’re not scraping, guessing, or running your details through a database — we’re looking, the same way a user would.
How long does a Tea check take?
Two hours during business hours. Order overnight or at the weekend and your report will be with you by the next working morning, or add Priority at checkout for $49 and we start straight away. Full details on the Tea Check page.
What about the 2025 Tea app data breach?
We don’t touch it. That data was obtained unlawfully, and circulating it causes real harm to the people in it — most of whom have nothing to do with our customers. Every result in your report comes from a live search performed at the time you ordered it.
If another service offers to search the breach data for you, that tells you something about the service. We’d avoid it.
What is "Are We Dating The Same Guy"?
It’s a network of private Facebook groups, one for most major cities, with millions of members between them. Women post photos and screenshots of men and ask other members what they know about them. There’s now an app as well.
Which groups do you search?
The main group for your city, the surrounding metropolitan and state-level groups where a post about you would realistically appear, and the AWDTSG app. Posts don’t stay in one city — a screenshot taken in Chicago turns up in a Milwaukee group a fortnight later — so searching only your own city misses a real share of what’s out there. More detail on the Group Check page.
Why does a group check take 24 hours when the Tea check takes two?
There’s more ground to cover, and the posts are text as well as images. Names get spelled three different ways, photos get cropped, and threads run to hundreds of comments. We’d rather take the extra day and be thorough than give you a fast answer we’re not confident in.
Is a clean result permanent?
No. A clean report tells you where you stand on the date of the search. New posts or images may appear later. Monitoring can re-run all three checks monthly and email you a new summary, even when nothing has changed.
Can I just join the group myself?
You can’t — they’re closed and women-only — and attempting it is one of the worst things you can do. Men who get caught trying to join are frequently posted about because of it, and the attempt itself becomes the story. If you’ve already tried, mention it in the notes field on the order form so we know what we might find.
Why do you need my photos?
Because these posts are built around photographs, not names. Most men use a first name only on dating apps, and common first names return nothing useful. The photograph is what makes a search work — it’s the thing that was screenshotted, and it’s the thing that’s searchable.
Which photos should I upload?
The ones you actually use on dating apps. Two to five is ideal — clear, face visible, no sunglasses. If your dating profile has changed recently, include the older pictures too.
Is this facial recognition?
No. It’s ordinary reverse image search — the same category of tool anyone can use, pointed at the pictures you give us. We don’t build or keep a biometric profile of you, and we don’t scan faces.
What happens to my photos afterwards?
They’re stored securely, they’re never publicly accessible, and they’re deleted 30 days after your report is delivered. That’s set out in the Privacy Policy.
Can you search for photos of someone else?
No. Not for a partner, not for someone you’re dating, not for anyone. You’ll be asked to confirm the photographs are of you before the form will submit, and we don’t make exceptions. If that’s what you’re looking for, we’re not the service. See the Image Check page.
Will anyone know I searched?
No. We never contact the platforms’ users, never post, and never comment. Your search is not visible to anyone but you.
Will the woman who posted find out?
No. We don’t interact with her, the post, the group, or the platform in any way that would be visible. We look, we record what’s there, and we leave.
Who sees my report?
You. It goes to the email address you give us and nowhere else. We don’t share reports, we don’t publish anything, and we don’t discuss individual cases.
Do you tell me who posted?
No. We report what exists about you, not who wrote it. That’s a firm line and we don’t cross it.
Can you get it taken down?
We don’t do removals. What we do, if we find something, is talk you through the routes that exist and how to go about them yourself — what tends to work, what doesn’t, and when the best move is to leave it alone. Everyone else in this market sells you a takedown off the back of a search. We’d rather tell you the truth about what’s likely to happen.
Why not? Wouldn't that be more useful?
Because a service that sells removals has a reason to tell you your post can be removed. Most can’t be. Once the money is on the other side of that answer, the answer stops being reliable.
We sell the search and honest guidance on the result. That’s what lets us tell you when the right move is to do nothing — which is more often than anyone wants to hear.
Do you give legal advice?
No. We’re not lawyers. Some situations genuinely need one, and if yours is one of them we’ll say so plainly rather than sell you something else.
What does the report actually look like?
A written document, not a dashboard or a list of links. It states plainly whether anything was found. If something was, you get screenshots, the date posted, and which city the post appeared under. If nothing was found, we say so and tell you how far we looked.
You can read a real one, with the details removed, on the Sample Report page.
What if you don't find anything?
You still get the report. A clean result is a real result — it’s the answer most men are hoping for, and it’s worth knowing for certain.
Do I get a refund if nothing is found?
No. The fee covers the search, not a particular outcome — a clean report takes the same researcher time as one with a finding, and it’s the result you were hoping for. Charging only when we find something would give us a reason to find something. Full terms are on the Terms page.
Which payment methods do you accept?
Card. Payment is confirmed instantly and your check starts straight away.
How thorough is it really?
The report tells you exactly where we looked, so you can judge that yourself rather than take our word for it. What we won’t do is claim certainty we don’t have. A post made an hour after we searched won’t be in your report, which is what monitoring is for.
What should I do first?
Nothing. Don’t respond, don’t try to join the group, and don’t contact anyone about it. All three are the most common first reactions and every one of them tends to make the situation worse — a post that would have faded in a month becomes a thread that runs for a year.
What is the consultation?
A 45-minute call with someone who deals with these posts every day, going through what’s actually been posted about you and the routes available. Whether the post breaks the platform’s own rules, whether you own the photograph, whether the group’s moderators are worth approaching, where the legal line actually falls, and whether the right move is to leave it alone. You get a written summary within 24 hours.
It’s $249.99, and it’s offered after a result rather than before. We don’t remove the post for you and we don’t contact anyone on your behalf — the call hands you the steps, and what you do with them is yours.
Should I get my photos copyrighted?
If a post uses a photo you took, registration gives you a route platforms are legally required to act on, which works considerably better than arguing about what the post says. It’s $299 for up to 10 photographs. Two things worth knowing before you do it: registrations are public records and will show your name, and the Copyright Office takes months rather than days. Full detail on the Image Copyright page.
How do I pay?
Card. Payment is confirmed instantly and your check starts straight away.
What's Priority?
$49 at checkout. We start straight away rather than in queue order — one hour on a Tea check, same day on the others. It’s a tick box on the payment step, not a separate product.
Which check should I buy?
If you only suspect one platform, buy that one. If you don’t know where you’ve been posted — which is most people — the Full Check at $249 covers the Tea app, the AWDTSG groups and app, and anywhere else your photos have surfaced. Screenshots move between these places constantly, so checking one is checking half. It saves $78 against buying the three separately.
All prices are on the Pricing page.
What is monitoring?
$249 a month. All three checks re-run every month by a person, with an email either way — an alert if something new appears, and a short written summary when nothing has changed. Cancel any time from a link in every email.
A clean check tells you where you stand today. It doesn’t tell you where you’ll stand next month.
